got nothing to do.
then went online to find ways to cheer up!~
dumb right? =_= but thats me..... =/
found this..
Accept to Move On:
But first, it's important to deal with the any initial feelings of denial, anger, guilt, and blame. Though these feelings are perfectly natural, they won't help you feel better. When something bad happens accept that it has happened. You don't have to like it, but accept it. Denial won't make it go away.
Though temporary negative moods may even be helpful in dealing with a bad event, they won't help you recover and move on with your life. But a positive attitude will help you move forward. Most of us recognize this, but we often have trouble finding ways to elevate to more positive moods and attitudes.
These interventions will help lift your mood, elevate your spirits, and get you moving back toward a positive attitude:
- Communication - In times of stress and anxiety, sharing your feelings with a supportive person helps to lift your spirits. The act of verbalizing what you're thinking and feeling is often enough to help you get past initial negative feelings.
- Meditation - Meditation calms, energizes, and diminishes stress. Find a quiet place to sit comfortably and focus on breathing deeply and slowly. This basic meditation will help.
- Exercise - Physical exercise calms the mind and redirects thoughts and energy away from worries and concerns. Take a brisk walk, tackle some housework, or go to the gym; any form of exercise will help cheer you up.
- Three good things - Identify three good things that have happened in the last 24 hours. Even the most routine positive event is helpful in lifting your mood, such as a good meal, a safe commute to work, or a cheerful hello from a friend.
- Gratitude letter - Take a few moments and jot down a brief note of gratitude to someone who has been helpful to you recently. Again, this need not be an extraordinary helpful gesture, but a kind word, a supportive presence, or a sincere attempt to cheer you up are worthy of your gratitude.
- Acts of kindness - Providing a kind act toward someone else not only helps that person but lifts our spirits in return. So even though you might be feeling down, strive to do something kind and helpful to another person.
At times, everyone gets the blues or feels mild depression without recognizing a specific reason for it.
hmm...that happens to me..but i admit that i stayed quite a bit =X
10. Breathe
Breathing is normally a subconscious function, but conscious breathing can help reduce stress and tension. Focusing on your breathing keeps your attention on the present moment and is a common component of meditation, a proven stress reducer. Breathe deeply and slowly, noticing each breath you inhale and exhale.
9. Laugh
Laughter is the best medicine. Keep handy a book of jokes or a favorite comic strip cartoon. When you feel blue, immerse yourself in the humor and go for a stomach-aching full laugh. Deep laughter improves your immune system and helps you keep life's problems in perspective.
8. Return to Nature
Go for a walk in a park, sit by a fountain, or gaze at a poster of your favorite ocean or mountain scene. Reflecting on a beautiful natural scene can lift your spirits.
7. Gratitude
Make a brief list of three to five things in your life for which you are grateful. Reflect on each item and identify the positive way it impacts your life.
6. Give of Yourself
Providing an uplifting message or thought to someone else also uplifts you. Call an elderly relative or friend. Offer a few minutes of your time to baby-sit or walk the dog for a busy neighbor. Helping another moves your focus and will improve your spirits.
5. Exercise
A brisk walk or any other form of physical exercise will improve your mood. Weed the garden or clean the house. The physical activity will help lift your mood.
4. Daydream
Recall a great vacation or a wonderful family reunion. Reflect on a card or letter someone sent you that was touching and showed they cared for you.
3. Use a Strength
We all have unique strengths, capabilities at which we are particularly talented. Use one or more of your strengths in some activity. If you don't know your strengths, take the VIA questionnaire.
2. Tend Something You Care About
Tend to a garden, a favorite house plant, a pet, or your car. When we tend something we provide a loving, caring attention to it that is a form of giving. Tending is not a chore, it's a blessing.
1. Apologize
Guilt and regret can hang around us like a lead weight, bringing on mild depression without our awareness of the cause. Offer up a sincere apology for things you've done or said that offended or hurt another. You'll feel the relief of your burden of regret even if you aren't able to personally deliver the apology. Offering it up to the Universe is sufficient.
Signs of Depression
Your behavior as signs of depression:
- Withdrawal from people, work, pleasures, activities
- Spurts of restlessness can be signs of depression
- Sighing, crying, moaning
- Difficulty getting out of bed is a sign of depression
- Lower activity and energy levels
- Lack of motivation – everything feels like an effort
Your feelings as signs of depression:
- Sadness, misery are "obvious" signs of depression
- Overwhelmed by everyday tasks (eg, cooking dinner)
- Numbness or apathy can be a sign of depression
- Anxiety, tension, irritability
- Helplessness is a sign of depression
- Low confidence, poor self-esteem
- Disappointment, discouragement, hopelessness
- Feelings of unattractiveness or ugliness
- Loss of pleasure and enjoyment are signs of depression
Your thinking patterns as signs of depression:
- Inability to make decisions
- Lack of concentration or focus can be a sign of depression
- Loss of interest in activities, people, and life
- Self-criticism, self-blame, self-loathing
- Pessimism can be a sign of depression
- Preoccupation with problems and failures
- Thoughts of self-harm or suicide can be signs of depression
Your body signals as signs of depression
- Fatigue, low energy, exhaustion are often signs of depression
- Poor sleeping patterns – waking early, not sleeping even when exhausted
- Loss of appetite (occasionally, increased appetite)
- Loss of sexual interest can be a sign of depression
wahaha...take a look if ur into depression anot...
Characteristics of highly sensitive people are similar to introverted personality types. Like introverts, highly sensitive people are quickly drained and need time alone.
but im definitely not introverts!!! =p
Highly sensitive people are deeply affected by lights, strange odors, clutter, and loud noises. They startle easily and take longer to "come down" from long days, conflicts with friends or family, or stressful days at work. Highly sensitive people can't tolerate as much as other people can. These personality traits are different than the characteristics of introverts.
Personality traits of highly sensitive people
Highly sensitive people are able read the moods of their friends and family quicker than "regular people."
highly sensitive people aren't to be confused with introverted, inhibited, or shy people (though similarities exist). Highly sensitive people have a more sensitive nervous system – it's a physiological as well as a psychological condition. Basically, highly sensitive people are more susceptible to external stimulation from sights, sounds, and even vibrations. Introverts may not be as sensitive.
Most highly sensitive people are:
- Able to process information deeply.
- Able to concentrate deeply.
- Good at tasks requiring accuracy, speed, and detail.
- Highly conscientious.
Physical characteristics of highly sensitive people:
- Good at fine motor movements.
- More affected by caffeine.
- Good at staying still.
- More "right-brained": less linear, more creative.
- Slower to recover from intense stimuli.
am i like that? dont think so...~~ =/
anyway...people who wants to read can go to:
http://personaldevelopment.suite101.com/article.cfm/how_to_cheer_up
